Sometimes when we’re out shopping Aaron will pass some flowers and he’ll tell me of a day that he was at a store with Paradigm, and that he saw flowers and that he wanted to buy them for me. I always tell him that this is very sweet but that he doesn’t have that much money, and that even if he did he shouldn’t spend it on flowers for me.
Aaron doesn’t really seem like a flower kind of guy. He likes to show me artichokes and eggplant, or a jar of pig’s feet, or a skeleton in the Halloween display. He brings home all manner of things in his pockets which he pulls out to show me………from plastic rats to pens. Some items I make him return to Paradigm because I’m sure he pilfered them without permission. He has given me unusual rocks that he finds in parking lots or at the park, and sometimes a strange piece of ornamental grass from the zoo that I know he should not have picked. But he does, and in his pocket it goes, and he’s just sure that Mom will be so happy that he was thinking of her.
So last week when I heard the door bang open announcing Aaron’s arrival home from Paradigm, and I met him in the kitchen, I was more than a little skeptical when I saw what he clutched in his hand. It was a small bouquet of pretty flowers which he thrust out to me and said, “Here, Mom.” I had no choice but to grab them as he quickly handed them to me and then hurried past me as he headed to his room. He gave no explanation and certainly showed no emotion as he quickly gave me the flowers.
“Wait, Aaron,” I said. “Where did you get these?” All sorts of scenarios were entering my mind. Did he take them from Dillon’s or Wal-Mart? Surely not. Did he grab them from someone’s desk at Paradigm as he went out the door to come home? But they hadn’t been crammed in his pocket, and I knew that his driver must have seen them. I was puzzled.
“Barb let me have them,” he answered. I was still confused as Aaron tried to explain that Barb really had let him have some flowers. They must have been flowers that she had received and that she shared with Aaron, I reasoned. I told Aaron to wait while I went downstairs and grabbed a vase. I let him watch me put the flowers and water in the vase, and then I placed them carefully in just the perfect spot. I thanked him warmly and gave him a big hug, which he halfheartedly accepted. He was in a hurry to get upstairs, to change clothes, and to get on his computer. As he walked away, I had my phone in hand and immediately texted Barb. I just had to know the real story, and to be sure that she wasn’t missing some flowers.
Sure enough, Barb confirmed that she had given Aaron the flowers so that he could bring them home to me. I thanked her and then told her that I hoped she didn’t take them from something that was for her. Her reply was a smiley face and then she said, “Enjoy how sweet it is that he wants to bring you flowers.”
How touching! How very sweet of Barb to not only see that Aaron got his wish of giving Mom flowers, but to see that I was given a happy heart by this gift from my son who can’t just run to the store and grab flowers for Mom whenever he wants. I’m still not sure how it all came about, but I was doubly blessed on that day.
And Aaron? He was pleased that he finally got to bring me some bona fide flowers……..not just a piece of ornamental grass or a dandelion or a flower pulled from the bush in our yard. These flowers were the real deal. He showed them to Gary when he got home, but all in all Aaron didn’t show a great deal of outward excitement about the flowers. This is so typical of Aaron. Just do the deed and move on to the next thing, showing little emotion or fanfare.
Yet I know he was very happy to bring me flowers, and he was very happy that I was very happy. He’s just not going to express it with smiles and conversation and hugs like we do. But I know that deep in that mind of his, he is very aware of the pleasure he gave his mom and of the love that was returned to him.
And deep in my mind, I’ll carry with me the picture of Aaron charging through the door with the flowers gripped in his hand……….and then those flowers thrust out to me as he hurriedly said, “Here, Mom.”
His wish was fulfilled……….and I will continue to enjoy how sweet it is that Aaron wants to bring me flowers.