We Need a Little Christmas?

My spirit was heavy yesterday as I went about my getting-ready-for-the-day routine.  Fresh on my mind was the night before.  Most of the day before, actually. 

Aaron.  Anger because we said no to a game.  His hovering presence as he told me not to write his name on our Christmas cards.  Escalation from him and then finally from us. 

Guilt.  Regret.  Failure.

There, in the heaviness, one of my very favorite Christmas songs came on Pandora. 

Haul out

The holly

Put up the tree

Before my spirit

Falls again

Fill up

The stocking

I may be

Rushing things


Deck the halls

Again now.

I’ve loved that song since I was a child.  Back then, life was simpler.  Now, putting up a tree does not really keep my spirit from falling.

The day before, Aaron and I found out that one of our dear Meals on Wheels clients had suddenly died.  His dog, Buster, was Aaron’s favorite.  As we sat in the van, talking to the man’s daughter on the phone, Aaron was as shocked as I.  He bent over and put the two dog bones he was going to give Buster back in the box.  The look on his face broke my heart.

But Santa, dear

We’re in a hurry

So climb

Down the chimney

Turn on

The brightest

String of light

I’ve ever seen

Slice up

The fruitcake

It’s time

We hung

Some tinsel

On that

Evergreen bough.

The trappings of Christmas just aren’t cutting it right now. 

Santa…lights…tinsel…definitely not fruitcake!

Not for me…not for my friend just diagnosed with breast cancer…not for our friends just home with their Speedy from yet another hospital stay…

For we need

A little music


A little laughter


A little singing

Ringing through

The rafter

And we need

A little snappy

“Happy ever after”

Need a little

Christmas now.

A little snappy “happy every after” is not what our friends at the funeral home needed to hear from us the other evening as they deeply grieve their son who took his life. 

The next song began playing.

O little town of Bethlehem

How still we see thee lie

Above thy deep and dreamless sleep

The silent stars go by

Yet in they dark streets shineth

The everlasting light

The hopes and fears of all the years

Are met in thee tonight

Oh holy child of Bethlehem

Descend to us we pray

Cast out our sins and enter in

Be born to us today.

Certainly not a peppy, fun song.

But there is the real light that we need!  Our hopes and our fears…our pain and sadness…our disappointments…

All are met in Him! 

Jesus came to be our Savior, not to be the afterthought of all our Christmas decorations and gifts and food.

O morning stars together

Proclaim thy holy birth

And praises sing to God the King

And peace to men on earth

O hear thy sacred angels

As faith holds wide the door

Then darkness wakes, the glory breaks

As Christmas comes once more.

Jesus was born to be the answer to all of life’s hurts…hurts that can’t be ignored even at this special time of year. 

No amount of fevered activity can relieve our sorrows.

We can’t manufacture a festive answer that truly lasts.  What are we left with when the lights are taken down…the food is eaten…the gifts are opened?

We’re left either with a hollow void waiting to be filled again with our feeble attempts at happiness.

Or we’re left with Jesus.

HE is the light of the world.  He wants to be your Savior. 

Jesus has the answers that truly last amid life’s struggles.

Thank God for His unspeakable gift, the only gift we really need. 

Author: Patty hesaidwhatks

I'm Patty and I write about our adult son who has Epilepsy and Autism, who still lives with my husband and me, and who is a package full of many surprises and joys and challenges and TALK! Lots of talking, which creates laughter and some other reactions as well. I also write about how God shows Himself to me in everyday life.

37 thoughts on “We Need a Little Christmas?”

  1. Patty you have captured these thoughts perfectly. I’ve been thinking the same. Friends with cancer. Families struggling. The tinsel and trees seem hollow. All we need, all we ALL need, is Jesus. Blessings to you and your family!

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  2. Beautifully said Patty as I have my first Christmas without my dear husband, Steve. It is Jesus who is holding my hand and relieving me of my sorrows during this foggy, numbing journey.

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  3. Hugs and prayers to you, dear Patty.
    Thank you for your faithful, authentic blog posts. Thank you for pointing your readers to the One true Answer, Jesus!

    Love and prayers
    Sindy Brown

    Sent from my iPhone

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  4. Patty, you captured it all with your post. Our circumstances seem difficult and painful. Jesus, however, shines light and casts out the darkness, bringing hope. May the Lord bless you, and keep you. May his face shine upon you and grant you peace. ❤️⭐️🎼

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  5. Thanks Patty. I’ll always appreciate the way you share your heart. Christmas does seem much different from what it used to be years ago. I’m thankful Jesus remains the same. May we find joy in Him. So sorry to hear about your losses.❤️

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  6. I’m so sorry it’s been such a difficult week for you and your friends! And you’re right, the trappings of Christmas do nothing to address those very real and deep wounds. But our faith does and knowing that God is with us even during our darkest hours is the only thing that really helps. If we can focus on the real meaning of Christmas, Jesus being born to save very broken world, then the holiday helps. Thanks for putting that so eloquently! My guess is your post will help others who are also struggling this year.

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  7. Hi Patty, Thank you for sharing! I’m sorry it’s been such a challenging time but we thank God for the gift of Jesus.

    Jesus does go through it all with us.

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      1. Patty, what you wrote in this post stuck with me through the evening. It brought to mind a scripture that in turn bloomed into a scripture photo. With your permission, I would love to share that scripture photo this week on my blog and include a quote from you with a link back to this post. Would that be ok with you?

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  8. I too am sorry that the joy of Christmas is shadowed by sorrow for you and your friends. And yet. You point the way toward peace and joy in spite of grief–toward Jesus. He IS the light of the world and Savior to all who come to him. HE does have the answers that truly last amid life’s struggles. Amen, Patty! And thank you for this honest yet hope-filled post.

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  9. Beautiful post! The most important thing we open at Christmas has nothing to do with anything under the tree. We open our hearts to receive our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. You are right. He is the only light we need, and it is the only light that shines in the darkness. Praying for you, your family, and your friends!

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  10. Especially at this time, though it would be so helpful for me any time of the year, your words are so helpful for me today when I’ve been tempted to go the pressure to have everything ‘just right’ … (By the way, I “found you” through Beth Alisan”s latest blog.)

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    1. I’m so glad to “meet” you, Heather. I do appreciate Beth sharing my blog. I’m like you in that I tend to want everything just right, especially for the Christmas season. This year is very different for us and though it’s for good reasons, it can also be sad. I often need to discipline myself to look to the Light of Bethlehem, the baby in the manger, to get my priorities and focus corrected. I look forward to checking out your blog.

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  11. Our household sure knows of what you speak. I remember sitting in a waiting room hoping our daughter would make life’s fight again for the 4th time. I remember turning to my wife and saying “Merry Christmas dear” and we prayed again together.

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  12. Hi Patty, I’m sorry you have had so much sadness around your Christmas this year. I will pray for you to find comfort and joy through our Lord. It is His love for us that gets us through tough times.
    What a beautiful post… Your tree is so beautiful! I may have told you this before, but I’ll repeat it. I have the exact same manger seen as yours. I’ve had it for many years since my adult children were small. My son would put his Darth Vader action figure in the manger scene and when my daughter would find it she would scream and cry (his intended reaction)! This started when she was about 4 and he was 10 and continued for years. If he can find one, I’m sure he will sneak it over here for Christmas Eve! Of course, I still have the same manger scene and always will. Have you had yours for many years, too?
    Lord, I pray that Patty and her family and friends will find comfort and joy this holiday season. I pray that they will experience times of laughter which is your medicine. Bless them and keep them. In Jesus’ name, I pray.

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    1. Thank you so much, Cindy, for your kind words and prayers. It seems that so many are going through hard times right now. Those times just make the light of Jesus shine even brighter. And yes, I have had that manger scene for many years, too. I LOVE the Darth Vader story! What a fun family memory! Let me know if your son does bring Darth Vader again this year. 🙂 Blessings, Cindy.

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