Share: to partake of, experience, or enjoy with others.
Aaron, for some unknown reason, has been in a sharing mood lately. It’s encouraging to Gary and me to see positive traits such as this in Aaron. Anytime he thinks of others beyond himself, besides slapping them on the back or making a rude remark about them, makes us surprised and thankful. His sharing of late has come in the form of bringing us little portions of his special snacks. A couple cashews here, a few gummy bears there, a piece of gum thrown in the mix……it’s all been part of his sharing frame of mind recently. Never mind that we are often fearful of actually putting any food item that Aaron brings us in our mouths. We just never know where those hands of his have been, if you know what I mean. According to our scientist daughter, being exposed to germs helps to build our immune systems. Therefore, Gary and I should never be sick again in our natural lifetime.
There are other forms of sharing that go on with Aaron, as well. During supper a few days ago, Aaron told us about the song “YMCA” and how he had heard it on the radio in his day group van. Aaron liked this song and he wanted to tell us all about it, and to ask lots of questions about it. I noticed that Gary was on his phone and in just a few moments he held his phone up for Aaron to see and to listen…..to The Village People singing “YMCA.” I just stopped eating and watched this scene. Gary held his phone for Aaron as he watched Aaron’s reaction to the song and to the antics of The Village People as they did all the funny motions. I watched Aaron’s face, too, but also Gary’s as I enjoyed the pure delight brought on by this simple moment. Soon Gary pulled up another group, wanting to watch Aaron’s face when he told him to guess the name of this next group…..The Monkees! Aaron laughed and we laughed as we both enjoyed the look of more delight on Aaron’s face. “Yeah, yeah, we’re the Monkees…….”
We were sharing Aaron…..and it was so much fun.
On Saturday afternoon, while Gary was immersed in being our IT man and working on my computer, I asked Aaron if he wanted to go out with me to do a little shopping. He stood in the bathroom while I fixed my hair, hovering, thinking that his hovering would make me hurry and we could get this show on the road. Soon he was coughing. “You made my breath feel strong because of hair spray!” he sputtered. That’s when he decided to wait for me downstairs.
Aaron’s all about shopping, always hoping that he’ll come home with some treat or item that’s just for him. On the way to Big Lots, he asked, “Mom, is it about clothes?” I assured him that this trip wasn’t about clothes, and he was able to relax then. He helped me look at seasonal rugs, and then off we headed for Petco, where I told him I wanted to look for dog bed covers for Jackson……no rugs at Petco for me….and no clothes.
We struck gold before we even got in the store, because there in the parking lot was a couple with a cart full of four amazingly adorable Mastiff puppies. Aaron headed straight for them and they gladly let him pet their puppies. Once in the store, Aaron had to show me the fish….the hamsters….the gerbils….the various birds….the ferret….. I commented on how much the ferret cage smelled, so as we left the store, Aaron took it upon himself to stop at the front counter. He didn’t care that there were people standing in line. He stopped and informed the cashier that his mom said the ferret stunk, as he laughed and rubbed his hands together, and everyone stared at him…..and mom told Aaron to come on as she walked out the door like nothing at all was unusual. Sharing Aaron…..
We ran into Bed, Bath, and Beyond….which Aaron confused with Bath and Body Works, so he was hoping it didn’t stink like all those things do in that store. He didn’t mind the ferret but he thinks Bath and Body Works stinks? Anyway, we found nothing in BBB, so I told him we would go to Kohl’s next…..and I didn’t tell him it has clothes. We talked about fall, and I told him that I like this time of year and the colors of the trees. “Yeah,” Aaron said. “They don’t have leafs.”
There were no rugs in Kohl’s, but Aaron found the coolest spider soap dispenser ever. I would have hurried right by it, but not Aaron. “Mom!!” he exclaimed loudly. “Look at this!” Others looked, too……sharing Aaron.
I suggested that we look inside Ross, right next door to Kohl’s, so Aaron gladly trotted along beside me…..ready to explore a new store. It only took a second for him to see the hanging skeleton just inside the door…..and you know the rest. We finally made it to the rug aisle, and looked at several styles and colors. I would unfold one and look at it……put it back on the shelf and unfold another one……several times. Aaron was about done with this silly rug business. “Mom, you can’t make up your decision with rugs!” he said with a small measure of patience. So I quickly made up my decision…..the one with dots, as Aaron described it, and we went to stand in the check-out line.
There were several customers in front of us on this busy Saturday. While standing there, Aaron found a bag of gummy bears that I agreed to buy him. He held his gummy bear bag but he was observing everything around him, as always. At one of the counters there stood a man making his purchases…..a man with a very modern Mohawk hair cut…..and I should have seen it coming.
“Look at that guy’s hairdo!” Aaron broadcasted loudly. The young lady in front of us turned and smiled while I smiled back, and also while I told Aaron to please try hard to whisper……but to try even harder not to comment on people…..in any way, shape, or form. Please! Not in ANY way, shape, or form whatsoever! Sharing Aaron…..
We were finally driving home, rug and Aaron in tow…..and I was so thankful that either Aaron didn’t notice the other Mohawk hairdo man coming in the door as we left…..or he just decided that he would listen to Mom for a change and not comment. Probably the former. Anyway, as I drove Aaron said, “Mom, sometimes Brian at Paradigm does this.” And I looked over to see Aaron comically trying to make his facial muscles move. “And flaps his ears!” Aaron finished. I laughed at the thought of flapping ears, which made Aaron very happy. Sharing Aaron…..
Later that night, as I sat at my desk doing some things, I heard Aaron coming up the stairs. Without saying a word, he plopped down several gummy bears for me. I thanked him while determining in my mind if I should eat them, but Aaron walked away and I was saved from that decision for the moment. But in just a minute I once again heard him coming upstairs, where he put even more gummy bears on my desk…..and walked out quickly. Down the stairs he went…..and wouldn’t you know, soon he was headed back up. He walked in my room again, but this time he didn’t leave me any gummy bears. Instead he reached down and took some off my personal pile of gummies, smiled, and started out the door.
“Are those for dad?” I guessed. And he said they were for Dad, and thumped down two sets of stairs to give his gummy gift to Dad. Aaron sharing….
I looked down at my remaining gummy bears and saw three soft bears there on my desk calendar. Three bears…..Aaron, Gary, and me, I thought. How perfect!
Gary and I, sharing life and sharing Aaron.
And Aaron, sharing with us…..more than just gummy bears. Sharing his unique way of living, in many different ways, shapes, and forms.